Who do we allow to rule our lives?

Jdg 8:23 But Gideon said to them, "I will not rule over you, nor shall my son rule over you; the LORD shall rule over you."

Who do we allow to rule our lives? I am not debating the role of leaders here, but honestly, who do we place our trust in? our pastor, parents, etc?
While we are supposed to honor them as the word commends we must not look to them more then we seek the lord.
I see such danger in the church of looking to man instead of God. We allow man to rule our churches rather then the holy spirit. Mans plans fail and amount to nothing, we may think we know whats going on but we really don't. We may have a plan for our church but we really need to seek the Lord? why have we taken the control of the holy spirit and given it to man? because we want to be "content" we want to be ok with our lifestyle, why are we dying off and not allowing the Lord to control our lives/churches? because we are afraid of conviction, because we are prideful. the idea of control is radical, this idea is over the edge. I am desiring to be completely controlled by the holy spirit. Ahh! the Lord is amazing when he controls our lives it is an adventure. He provides for us and he gives us joy and fulfillment.